Job Search Advice: How to Explain Your Unemployment (and Get Your Confidence Back!)

It seems that there's always been a stigma attachedlook—I want to be honest with you.  I'm feeling a
to being unemployed, and even in this economy, whenlittle down because of this very tough job market.  I'm
so many people are without a job for a lengthyabout to go into some important job interviews, so I
stretch, it still causes candidates to be uncomfortablewant to be strong about who I am and what I have to
and nervous about telling people that they'reoffer.  I was wondering if you could take a moment
unemployed.  They don't quite know how to handleto talk to me about how you experienced me and
the situation in the job search or in the interview.how you would describe me to others.  Maybe it
It's very important that you keep in mind thatwould help me describe myself and remind me of the
unemployment is a temporary state.  Just becausesuccesses I've had in the past.  Anything I can do for
you're unemployed, that does NOT define you.  Theyou to return this favor, I would be happy to do."
only difference between being unemployed andSometimes, hearing someone who loved you in the
employed is ONE offer letter…or one phone call, onepast talk to you again about what you did for them,
contact, or one interview.  That's all.about how you secured XYZ contract or how you
So tomorrow when you get that job offer, will you besolved ABC problem or how you communicated
any different than you are today?  No.with  so-and-so in such a way that it did ______ for
Sometimes we have to remind ourselves who wethe company—or how they'd love to hire you if they
are.  So I want you to go back and look through yourhad a spot or how they'd love to recommend
resume and think about your documentedyou—is enough to give you the strength of character
successes.  If you don't have them documentedand feeling of confidence so that when you talk on the
there, they should be.  (This might also be an excellentphone to a potential employer, it will project in your
time to compile your brag book, if you haven't already.)voice.  And when you meet in person, it will project
I also want you to think about calling people you'vefrom your heart.   And I want you to have that.
worked with in the past.  You know who your greatJust because you're unemployed right now, doesn't
supporters are—the manager you had in '95, or themean it's forever.  It's temporary.  And it's no
person who tried to get you to come over to hisindication about what kind of a tremendous employee
company in 2000, or the gal who wrote your greatyou are—and will be to the company who takes
review in 2003.  Call those people and say, "Hey,advantage of the opportunity and hires you.